“Today she cried”, he told his mom on his way back from work. He’s been observing her for years, noticing her every nuance, physical or emotional. He sees her when he’s handling real estate deals at their thriving office. He cares. She has a boyfriend, someone who makes her miserable. She allows it. He waits. He’s charming. I’ve met him. I heard the story before and I felt jealous. I want someone who cares about me that way. Someone who notices when my eyes are swollen, when I’m retaining water or when I’m flipping out. He sends her flowers. He’s been trying to get with her for years now. “We finally meet”, his mom told her the first time they were introduced. She’d been hearing about the office girl for a while. She couldn’t wait for office girl to take note of her son. He bought us all dinner, when he took us out (his 3 siblings, my sister, his girlfriend and I). He’s a cute one and he’s even 8 years younger! “I wonder if he’ll be chasing younger women in 10 years”, I asked my sister. He’s never had a kid, she has two. She’s no spring chicken. Not sure what he’ll be doing, but for now, they are married, just had a little girl, bought a house in the outskirts of NYC (because it’s quieter and the city will eventually catch up with them anyway). It’s been four years. He’s still as charming… through her pregnancy and her hellish mood-swings. “I wonder why he doesn’t leave me, not even I could stand myself these days”, she told my sister recently. He cares. He’s cute. He’s young. He’s nice. He’s driven. He takes charge. Who said all girls like bad boys? and how many points do I have to accumulate to get a guy like that?
It’s not about points, but about not looking… Sometimes you find what you’re not looking for…
Who said anything about looking? I was hoping he’d just show up at my door like the mail or better yet, like the publisher’s clearinghouse checks. Yes, like that!
from what i’ve read of you, i have no doubt that you’ll snag someone great like that for yourself.
probably when you least expect it.
that’s when life’s great surprises always happen, no?
kim
Just belieeve, God has someone special destined for you, just be patient.
I know how your feeling…I been feeling like that all my life…But sometimes it’s always the most beautiful that are the loneliest…Maralyn MAnroe, Princess Diana (If thats any consellation)
Ah…amazing post. And the comments.
Although I don’t think girls like bad boys, but sometimes I am tempted think they do! What else explains my being single still
I remember trying to impress a girl not too long ago. I invited her over to my place for dinner but before she came over, I wanted to clean up real good as I couldn’t have my place looking a mess.
Then while she was there, I remember her asking me….”Is your place always this tidy?” “Or are you trying to deceive me?” After thinking about it.. I wonder if there can at times be a fine line between impressing and deceiving.
Either way, I think she left that evening with the impression that I live in a clean place (which I generally do)… but as the nice guy in me was trying to impress her by cleaning up real good.. I guess that the bad boy in me was trying to deceive?
It’s sweet doing something nice to impress, but if the other person doesn’t know this, you may be creating an expectation of what you or your relationship would be like if you got together.
As far as wordlywise’s comment, I believe many of us girls have ditched a good guy at one point of another. It’s a matter of timing and being ready. Thanks everyone for a good discussion!